10 Old-Fashioned Rules Of Dating Etiquette We Should Totally Forget About

Back in the day way before Internet and social media, men making the first move really was the golden rule of dating. A man having to build up the courage to ask the girl who had caught his eye on a date may seem very out of synch with what we are used to now, however it was almost always the case; even when it came to the first kiss!

‘If you don’t feel butterflies in your stomach when you’re around him, then he isn’t the one for you’. The butterfly method was commonly used as a test to determine if there was chemistry between a couple or not. No doubt many men fell short because of this scientific approach. Butterflies are amazing things to experience but are in no way an indicator for a good relationship.

Letting a guy chase you was one of dating’s unwritten golden rules in the past, however nowadays the concept is very outdated and old-fashioned. We all agree that now if a women was to let a man chase her, she’d more than likely be very disappointed about not being contacted. Expecting a guy to do all the work would just be like setting yourself up for disappointment.

The 3 day rule had it that women weren’t to pick up a man’s call for at least 3 days and calling him first was totally out of the question, no, that came across as too desperate! Before we were taught that it was a man’s job to initiate contact following a date. Now, women have well and truly stepped up and are no longer afraid to put their feeling’s out there and make that call!

‘You’ll only find love when you’re not looking for it’. This phrase has been inscribed in dating history and has definitely been the greatest source of frustration for many, the idea of not looking for love, it’ll come to you seems ludicrous. If you aren’t looking for love, how can you know you are emotionally ready to invest yourself and heart in a relationship?

Let’s be real here, for the most part chivalry is a thing of the distant past, but that doesn’t mean that there aren’t lots of women who’d love to see it make a comeback! The times of men holding doors open for women, carrying a lady’s bag, being on time and being genuinely polite seem to have been left in the past. Nowadays, women are considered lucky if they receive flowers on their anniversary!

Here’s something we’d love to see make a comeback and fast! Back in the day, dating meant taking time out and really getting to know someone well by giving them your undivided attention and actually listening. Being attentive and showing interest in someone is probably the biggest dating paradox; nowadays generation 2.0 daters often seem to spend most of their time on their phones and are unable to disconnect themselves.

Tradition had it that men were expected to plan the whole date from start to finish, but just before going on the date, they had to cruise by their date’s house to meet her family; especially her father. Meeting the family so early on added a whole lot of pressure and let’s be honest could be further away from what we are used to now! Now, meeting the family generally happens after a few months of commitment.

Men picking up the check on dates is most definitely a thing of the past, now it is not uncommon to see women treating their dates and paying for the evening’s events. Women have certainly become more and more empowered when it comes to this part of dating etiquette.

The types of dates that we now go on have also been given a radical makeover! Before couples got really glammed up, went all out with their outfits and hit the town to dance the night away. Saturday night fever really was a thing back then! Nowadays dates are often a little more low-key and less energetic.