Top Tips for our Single MumsParenting is one of the greatest jobs of life, but undoubtedly comes with a number of big responsibilities. This responsibility is then doubled if you find yourself a single mother. Single mums often find themselves snowed under by the responsibilities of work, home and children whilst all the while looking for a lover. To help, we’ve compiled the top 5 pieces of advice for how to cope being a single mum.
In the UK, one mother in five is going at parenthood alone. That is to say that 85% of single-parents are women. Therefore it is far from rare to find yourself a single mum… sometimes it cannot be avoided and is for the best.
Are you worried about being a single mum? Read our advice and there will be no need to be!
5 Top Tips for Single Mothers...
When you’re living off just one income it can be more difficult to make the bills stretch each month. This is why putting into place a spending plan is very important. Note down what you’re spending each month so that you don’t get a nasty surprise when you run out of money a few days short!
Be a woman
As much as you adore your children, it can get a little tiring spending every evening inside with them. Therefore, when your children are at their dad’s take the time to enjoy yourself and have some ‘me-time’. That may be chilling in the house with some candles, going out with friends or going shopping! Whatever it is, don’t feel guilty for needing time alone, if you’re less stressed your children will be happier for it!
Dare to ask for help
Anyone who is a single parent will understand the strain put on your mind by having children as well as the stress and tiredness! Do not be afraid to ask for help if you need it, no one will judge you and your friends will only want to give you a helping hand! It doesn't make you a bad mother.
Build up contacts
The role of single mother is not an easy one and you won’t be able to fuffill all the demands of your child so think about building up your address book. That could be with other parents from school, useful internet sites that have services you may need (childcare, cleaning) or support for single mother phone lines. Remember, you’re not alone.
Keep to your role of mother
The fact that you’re not a ‘normal’ family can make some mothers feel guilty. Despite this it is important to stick to the role of parent in order to show your child a model of a stable upbringing. It’s this stability that will allow your child to shine. Of course, they will try at times to push your limits – in particular if your ex is more lenient with them than you are – but stick to it and your child will thank you later.