Learning to ForgiveHas someone ever hurt, humiliated, or betrayed you, and you don’t think you could ever forgive them? Do you feel hate or bitterness, with a thirst for vengeance that keeps you occupied day and night? It’s time to act: forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting. Even if you’ve suffered a lot, you must relieve yourself of this feeling. With your astrological sign in mind, we’re going to advise you on how to forgive others…
“I’ll never, ever forgive so-and-so.” We’ve all said/thought this at one time in our lives. The harder the fall is, the more difficult it is to get back up. Everyone reacts in a different way when faced with deception: some people isolate themselves, acting like nothing ever happened, while others go all out to get their revenge.
Is forgiveness a sign of weakness? No, in fact it’s quite the opposite, forgiveness is a huge sign of strength because you need the courage to look truth straight in the eye and close down your anger. Bitterness will eat away at you, so learn to forgive for your own good. Stress isn’t beneficial for your health.
“We forgive the unfaithful ones, but we’ll never forget them.” Madame de La Fayette
Forgiving Someone in 5 Steps
1. Become aware of your pain. Accept it and don’t hide yourself anymore. Forgetting is a very efficient and comfortable system of survival, except when it becomes a general anesthetic… be careful of “waking up,” which could prove brutal.
2. Stop beating yourself up. Making yourself feel responsible serves no purpose and will wipe you out little by little.
3. Stop playing the victim. This is, without a doubt, the most painful step to get through, but it’s necessary in order to forgive.
4. Express your anger. Go ahead and scream, do whatever pleases you. This is the pivotal point of forgiveness provided that you succeed in transforming anger into energy and motivation in order to progress.
5. Confront the other person. Get things off your chest once and for all if you feel the need to.
Are you the kind of person who forgives easily?
Click on your sign and discover if you’re resentful or not and, if you’ve made a mistake, learn how to ask for forgiveness from the other person!
Are you the resentful type? Aries
Aries, you’re an explosive person and you lose your temper quickly, but you’re able to calm down just as easily. Detachment is your best ally for showing that you’ve been hurt.
In order for you to forgive others:The other person must combine sincere and meaningful justification. You don’t forgive others until they can recognize their fault and promise never to do something again. It’s best that this person holds on to your forgiveness because they won’t get a second chance.
Are you the resentful type? Taurus
Taurus, even if you like to say that you aren’t resentful, you are just a bit… you’re someone who’s loyal and you don’t tolerate betrayal. If anyone lies to you, you can become cruel and hurtful.
In order for you to forgive others:You’re one of the most stubborn signs of the zodiac… it isn’t easy to get you to grant someone else a second chance. The other person must ask for forgiveness over and over again and offer you a symbolic gift, or a gift that’s of high sentimental value to you.
Are you the resentful type? Gemini
You don’t know when to keep your mouth shut so, as a result, it isn’t rare that your arguments explode! You take offence quickly, but you quickly forgive everyone, too.
In order for you to forgive others: The other person should make the effort to talk to you face-to-face, using eye contact, and attempt to get you to laugh. You can’t resist a good sense of humor, and if this person tags an “I love you” on the end, even better for them.
Are you the resentful type? Cancer
In general, you’re very resentful. You remember everything, each offense, the place, the time, and the context. You remember everything in order to prepare your revenge well.
In order for you to forgive:People should get a head start if they want your forgiveness! The other person has every interest in giving you gifts and sending you long letters of apologies, and will wait patiently for some days before receiving your response. You’ll forgive if the other person proves their weakness, patience, and a lot of tact.
Are you the resentful type? Leo
You argue easily due to your dominant character, which can prove hurtful to others. You often become offended for no reason and your excessive pride keeps you from recognizing your faults and asking for forgiveness.
In order for you to forgive: The other person should behave as if nothing ever happened and just let things be what they are. Some banter about your argument can also improve things between you two.
Are you the resentful type? Virgo
You are susceptible and a little bit over-sensitive. You don’t forgive others very quickly and you keep the consequences in mind for a very long time.
In order for you to forgive: The other person should recognize their error, admit they were wrong, show that they need you, and that it’s always you in control. The worst that he/she could do would be to shout at you or send you a letter of apology. You won’t tolerate these options.
Are you the resentful type? Libra
You don’t like violent conflicts, and you’d prefer to run off before stepping into the breach. You forgive easily, but this is because you prefer calm and peace instead of yelling and tears! Very often you don’t forgive completely and you keep a bitter memory, but wouldn’t dare to say anything.
In order for you to forgive: The other person must show you reason, recognize your qualities, and inflate your self-esteem that has been ruined by anger. Flowers or a small gift always have an effect on a Libra…
Are you the resentful type? Scorpio
You’re part of the zodiac signs who are the most resentful. You can spend your entire life without forgiving someone. You need to get revenge and you’re often radical about it to the point that you’ll cut a relationship short overnight. With each cut, you progress even farther and you love that.
In order for you to forgive: The other person’s interested in displaying patience and being consistent in every fact and gesture to prove his/her love to you up to the point that you decided to (or not) forgive him or her.
Are you the resentful type? Sagittarius
Despite your impulsive character, you make part of the group of signs who forgive the easiest. You know how to turn the page and clean the slate without any problem. Your flexible, free side doesn’t leave any space for any long-term resentment.
In order for you to forgive: The other person should provide a good explanation that will be enough for you to understand and forgive him/her. On the other hand, you will never forgive a deceitful partner.
Are you the resentful type? Capricorn
You aren’t the type of person who forgives easily and you’ll never forget anything. You love to bring up facts from 10 years ago at a time when the other person least expects it. Harsh!
In order for you to forgive: The other person needs to show tangible deeds and prove that he/she is truly sorry. This person won’t be really interested in picking the relationship back up because you’ll only forgive once, not twice.
Are you the resentful type? Aquarius
You only forgive if you feel like it’d be beneficial to you or offer you some relief. You are very susceptible and others don’t always understand you. You sometimes take offence for no reason, so people need time to get to know you and understand you.
In order for you to forgive: The other person needs to talk with you for a long time and convince you in order for you to forgive him/her. You wait as long as possible to forgive someone, but at least you leave on a good note with the other person.
Are you the resentful type? Pisces
You need an immense amount of time to pick yourself up when you’ve felt humiliated, a lack of respect, or betrayal but when you forgive, you do it sincerely. You’re an intuitive person and you figure out if someone’s excuses are real or not very quickly.
In order for you to forgive:The other person should be sensitive and gentle when they ask for your forgiveness. You’re incapable of resisting a warm hug or embrace!